雙語閱讀：如何忘記前任

雙語閱讀：如何忘記前任

　　1. Take Her Off That Pedestal

　　消除她的地位

　　First things: Stop acting like your ex was God’s gift to men. She wasn’t perfect. If we’re being honest, she probably wasn’t even close. Make a list of her annoying traits. Let your buddies bad-mouth her. Do whatever you have to do -- just take her off that pedestal.

　　第一件事情就是：別再把你的前任當(dāng)做是上帝賜給你的禮物了。她并不是完美的。老實(shí)說，她甚至還差得遠(yuǎn)呢。列一個(gè)她的缺點(diǎn)清單。讓你的兄弟們說她的壞話。做一些你必須做的事——把她從你的心里抹去。

　　2. Get Closure

　　跟她絕交

　　Step two for getting over your ex: get closure. If you’re going to break up with her, don’t put it off. Make sure you’re both on the same page. This is a breakup, not a “break.” The two of you are moving on, which means potentially seeing other people. If you feel the need to do a relationship postmortem, do it now. You won’t be seeing her again for a while.

　　忘掉前任的第二步：跟她絕交。如果你想要跟她分手，那就別磨磨嘰嘰。要確保你的想法是一致的。這就是分手，而不是“暫時(shí)分開”。你們兩個(gè)人都會向前看，這就意味著你們會跟別的人在一起。如果你覺得你應(yīng)該做一個(gè)戀愛檢討，現(xiàn)在就做。暫時(shí)別再見她了。

　　3. Don't Contact Her

　　別聯(lián)系她

　　This may be the most important of our 9 tips for getting over your ex. After you’ve gotten closer, don’t contact her. Go cold turkey. Seriously. Maybe you said some crap about trying to stay friends, maybe you made some idiot vow to “always be there for each other,” but forget it. By staying in touch with old flames, you’re asking for months of on-again-off-again uncertainty.

　　這也許是我們這9個(gè)忘掉前任的點(diǎn)子中最重要的一個(gè)了。雖然曾經(jīng)彼此那么親近，但千萬別再聯(lián)系她了。把這個(gè)壞習(xí)慣趕緊戒掉。真心的。也許你會說些繼續(xù)做朋友的廢話狡辯，也可能會發(fā)一些傻瓜似得誓言說“永遠(yuǎn)陪在彼此身邊，”但是忘了這些東西吧。跟舊情人保持聯(lián)系，你就是在不確定里幾個(gè)月都這樣藕斷絲連。

　　So, throw out her phone number, stop texting her and unfriend her on Facebook. Imagine how freaked out you'll be the first time you see some strange dude in her profile picture, and you'll see why a clean break is essential.

　　所以說，刪掉她的聯(lián)系方式，別發(fā)短信給她，臉書上也別加她為好友了。想象一下，當(dāng)你第一次看到陌生的紈绔子弟出現(xiàn)在她的相冊里的時(shí)候，你會有多么驚訝，到那時(shí)，你就知道為什么干凈地分手有多么重要了。

　　4. Work Out

　　忘記

　　Without a girlfriend gobbling up hours out of every day, you may be wondering what to do with yourself. Now that you’re single, we suggest hitting the gym or taking a jog. It’s a healthy way to work out all of that post-breakup frustration. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem. And don’t forget: The gym is a great place to meet women.

　　每天沒有女朋友占用你的大把時(shí)間了，你可能會想想自己要做些什么呢。現(xiàn)在你是單身了，我們建議去健身房或者去慢跑一下。這是種很健康的方式，能讓你忘懷所有關(guān)于分手之后的沮喪感。鍛煉身體也是個(gè)很好的方式來加強(qiáng)你的自尊心。并且別忘了：運(yùn)動(dòng)場是個(gè)很棒的地方，那里可以遇到美女哦。

　　5.Don't Try Getting Your Stuff Back

　　別再試著把你的東西拿回來

　　By the same token, you don’t want to try to get your stuff back. You can’t have a relationship relapse if you don’t allow yourself to see your ex. Forget about all that stuff you left at her place. Consider it gone. The you’re going to have to spend to replace a few DVDs is a small price to pay to avoid an ex-girlfriend who could be either desperately needy or irrationally angry.

　　同樣地，你別想著要去把你的東西拿回來了。如果你不讓自己見你的前任的話，你就不能把你的東西都拿回來。忘記所有你留在她那里的東西。想著那些都丟了。你花50塊去重新買一些DVD就當(dāng)是拿來支付避免再次見到那個(gè)窮困潦倒又無理取鬧的前任的。

　　6. Hang Out With Your Friends

　　跟朋友出去玩玩

　　One of the things many guys have to sacrifice when in a committed relationship was spending a lot of time with friends. Relationships are notorious time-bandits, as being with the person you're closest to tends to take priority over catching up with your buddies. But now that you’re single, you can reconnect with everyone you left behind. Not only will it be fun, but it will also be therapeutic.

　　你們談戀愛的時(shí)候犧牲的東西之一就是花時(shí)間跟兄弟們在一起。談戀愛簡直太花時(shí)間了，特別是你永遠(yuǎn)都要把你的女朋友放在優(yōu)先于兄弟的位置。但是現(xiàn)在你單身了，你可以再次跟所有你錯(cuò)過的兄弟聯(lián)系了。這不僅會很有趣，而且還會是個(gè)很好的治療方法。

　　7. Remember The Bad Times

　　記住那些艱難的時(shí)期

　　It’s pretty common for guys to idealize their significant others after a breakup. You’ll just be going about your business, and then, suddenly, you’ll remember an inside joke or a great date. Then you’ll grin, thinking about a cute personality quirk she had, and before long, you’re fantasizing about how great your life used to be.

　　分手之后，你們會把你們的愛人理想化的這種現(xiàn)象很普遍。你只要繼續(xù)做你的事情，然后，突然，你就會記起一個(gè)玩笑或者是一個(gè)重要的日子。然后你就會笑一下，想著她曾經(jīng)的那種可愛，但是不久以后，你就會幻想你跟你前任曾經(jīng)的生活會有多美。

　　8.Snap out of it

　　振作起來

　　One of the most important of our tips for getting over your ex is to remember the bad times. Focus on the fights and the problems. Recollect her bad habits and the little things about the relationship that frustrated you. It’s like taking a cold shower -- you can stop yourself from mythologizing the relationship if you keep it in perspective.

　　別再幻想了。我們忘記前任的建議中最重要的一條就是要記住那些艱難的時(shí)候。集中在那些吵架跟出現(xiàn)問題的時(shí)候。回憶她的壞習(xí)慣以及那些戀愛中讓你難過的小事。這就像洗了次冷水澡——可以讓你從你幻想中的戀愛神話里立馬清醒。

　　8. Exercise Your Newfound Freedoms

　　開發(fā)你新的自由

　　Relationships are about compromise. Being single should be about doing whatever the hell you want. Look, you’re free to do whatever you want (within the bounds of the law, of course). So stay out until four in the morning, hop on a plane to Vegas with your brother, or just sit on your ass and watch basketball all day. Taking pleasure in all of those things that you refrained from doing as a boyfriend can be a great way to get over your ex.

　　戀愛就是妥協(xié)。單身的你應(yīng)該做一些你自己想做的事情。看，你現(xiàn)在自由了，可以做任何你想做的事情(當(dāng)然，要在法律允許的范圍之內(nèi))。所以，呆到凌晨四點(diǎn)才回家，跟你的兄弟們飛往維加斯，或者整天都只是坐著看場球賽。從這些事情里面尋找快樂，能讓你克制住去做一個(gè)男朋友的想法從而讓你忘記你的前任。

　　9. Hook Up With Someone Else

　　去開始一段新的戀情

　　One thing that a lot of guys do to get over exes is get someone else into the picture.

　　很多人會做的一件擺脫前任的事情就是跟另一個(gè)人在一起 。